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Building Up Your Kid’s Self-esteem

Self-esteem is a vital factor in accomplishing success and living a happy and contented life. Your kids’ talent and intelligence would seem a waste if they don’t have the self-esteem to back it up. Then again, most kids who have low self-esteem feel that way when they think they don’t have any talent, or because they have difficulties in learning. Self-esteem is a reflection of a person’s assessment of his or her worth. Kids who have low self-esteem think poorly of themselves, and they get easily frustrated with failure.

Some of the experiences that can lead to low self-esteem are:

  • Harsh criticism

  • Physical, emotional, and sexual abuse

  • High expectations from people

  • Being ignored and teased

If not guided carefully, a child with low self-esteem may attempt to cope with their low self-worth by:

  1. Pretence

    Some kids cope with low self-esteem by acting happy and enthusiastic. In reality, they are afraid of failure so they mask their fear with enthusiasm. This fake positive self-esteem needs to be backed up with continuous successes. This creates further problems including perfectionism, procrastination, and anxiety.

  1. Rebellion

    This coping mechanism for low self-esteem is very popular with teenagers. They mask their fear of failure with anger, and they act like the opinions of the important people in their lives don’t matter to them. This may be a reflection of their low self-worth.

  1. Self-pity

    Rather than masking their low self-esteem with false competition or anger, there are people who do not try to cope with low self-esteem at all. They act helpless and depend on people to rescue them or save them from responsibility. Underachievement and dependence can be observed in these people. 

    Instead of reprimanding your child because of their behaviour, help them build their confidence up by showing them your support, whatever the outcome of the task might be. Show your kids that failure is normal, and that it often gives an opportunity to do better next time. You can be a great help in teaching your kids to value themselves. When your attempts to help your kids in building a healthy self-esteem don’t seem to be helping, you can always ask for assistance from those who are experts in this field. We are happy to provide strategies that will help your child develop a balanced view of themselves and the world.