When someone gives you advice on how to make your relationship a perfect one, you know it’s a bluff. There are no perfect relationships and it would be foolish of you to even think about creating one of your own. There is only a successful relationship and it takes more than love to make one. So what exactly are the ingredients to a healthy and successful relationship?
Know Your Partner
The first thing to put in mind is that you and your partner are imperfect individuals, and being together doesn’t make you perfect. The least you can do is complement each other and the only way to do that is by knowing your partner down to every bit of their being. Accept your differences. Never expect more than what they can give. Remember, they are bound to make mistakes. What they’re not supposed to do is to stop trying.
It’s no use just expressing your affection. You also have to display and talk about the things that irritate and offend you. Don’t think that your partners are supposed to know what you want and hate by default. They are not mind readers and they certainly are not fortune tellers. Talk to them. Express your wants and needs. You can’t succeed in a relationship by filling in each other’s blanks.
Respect yourself and your partner
Respect is like a ripple that still water makes when a pebble is dropped on it. It starts from the core before it starts spreading outwards. You cannot respect anyone unless you earn that respect for yourself in the first place. Only when you learn to your own worth can you start seeing the true value of the people you love.
If you are not willing to accept changes, it only shows how immature you are to be in a relationship. Despite your inability to see changes from within, people do change. There is nothing you can do to prevent that. What you can do instead is help them change into a better version of themselves.
Relationship is work. You need to invest time, effort, money, and even a part of yourself for it to become successful. There will be low points in your relationship. Don’t be easily shaken with small problems. If you think some things are becoming too shaky and you can’t solve it from within, ask for guidance. There are people who help couples get through rough patches. Remember, whatever the problem is, it is nothing compared to all the things you have already sacrificed for your relationship.